Discomfort: an invitation to stop playing small


“Do you feel it weigh on you? 

Doesn’t it just get to you, trying to be there for other people?”


This was a question that I was asked last week and upon hearing it, 

I noticed  a physical softening within me. 

I recognized so much of myself in this question, 

because I used to feel weighed down by my relationships with others 

when I believed that I had to absorb the energy of another to be of comfort.


What I now know is this:


The weight felt from others has little to do with the energy absorbed from them

(old avoidance belief)

and more to do with my own energy that was being called forward,

asking for my attention.


If it triggers something in me, I am meant to pay attention. 

If my heart breaks for someone, or something, I should pay attention. 

If something keeps me up at night, I give attention to it. 

If I keep thinking about the actions of another, I am meant to pay attention.


Please note that I did not say figure it out, 

or fix,